So you are Getting Married?
What should you consider about your Celebrant?
So you’re engaged and planning your Wedding? At this stage you are probably realising how many aspects of the wedding need to be organised .
It all becomes overwhelming very early in your decision to get legally married.
Of course there is your the clothing, colour scheme for attendants, venue, and amount of guests, affordability and date. Often the last thing to be thought about is the Celebrant who can legally officiate your Union.
It seems more and more people are choosing to solemnise their vows with a Marriage Celebrant at a location of the couple’s choice, as opposed to the traditional church wedding. For whatever reason that is, there are still many decisions to make in the lead up to deciding on which Celebrant you wish to choose to be part of your special day.
In my work as a Marriage Celebrant, I have observed the importance of supporting the couple to have a real understanding of the whole process. Guiding them with the formal aspects of the marriage but also coordinating the ceremony. In many situations the Couple have already chosen a venue and realise they haven’t found their celebrant. They see it as the last thing on the list when I personally feel it is so much more important.
As I mentioned before there are so many aspects to the planning of a Wedding Ceremony. There is of course the Wedding Celebration or Reception; however it’s the ceremony that really sets the scene for your day.
Your Wedding Ceremony is the foundation of your commitment to be legally married. There is an immense amount of power in the vows you say to each other.
Wouldn’t you want the person who provides this official aspect of your Union to have absolute integrity to the way they live so that this reflects in your commitment to each other?
So how do you chose a Celebrant and what can you expect from their service?
Your celebrant should have a sense of calmness about them, strong organisation and communication skills. Through their experiences of other weddings they have officiated and also their lived experiences in life, your Celebrant should have a myriad of ideas to support the planning. Especially if you may be struggling to pull everything together.
A celebrant tends to write a wedding ceremony a lot like writing a script for a play. Everyone has their role during the event and there is always a rehearsal and subsequently a performance, so to speak. The more the immediate family can be involved the better, such as siblings doing readings, if they are not attendants.
You could also have all parents walking your both down the aisle and pledging their support to the couple in the future.
All these things help make a Wedding not just about the Couple but the Union of families, people coming together and a brotherhood full of respect for all everyone brings.
So how does the celebrant you’ve chosen fit with all that?
Are they at ease around people?
Are they warm, encouraging and have vitality to life?
Does the way they live in their life reflect your values?
Are they respectful, well-spoken and truthful?
Do they have clear expression of the legal requirements to you?
Will they support you fully through the lead up to your Wedding Day?
On your Wedding Day will they stick to the script that you have approved previously with you Celebrant?
Lots of questions to ask yourself as you decide who will officiate your Marriage.
Your Wedding is a day to confirm and appreciate the legal commitment you wish to make to your partner, in the presence of those closest to you. It is not just one day of your relationship and not just about one or two people.
Something to ponder on as your approach this special day.